Comments for Journey To A Better Man

Comment on Response: My Weaknesses by Cheryl Kissell

Cheryl Kissell — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 04:22:20 +0000

I don’t actually believe we have any weaknesses…there are just some things we aren’t strong in. Oh well, by staying with your strengths it’s amazing how things we think we are weak in don’t really seem to matter at all.

Comment on That’s Totally Gay by gay

gay — Wed, 18 May 2011 10:44:36 +0000

As a gay man living in South Africa, I am woried that the casual use of the word gay is reversing the good work that has been done over the past 5 years in changing peoples attitudes to gay people

Comment on A Man With A Plan by Matt

Matt — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 04:23:37 +0000

Isn’t it amazing how things happen once you write them down? I have found that many of the things I have written on this site have not only been on my brain at the time, but immediately effected me as a result of writing them down.

I agree with people thinking and writing about themselves. It used to be (and for some still is) that people would keep journals. Most people don’t keep journals any more, although some keep blogs, most blogs are for business purposes or for pimping something about “me”. I think that the more you look in the mirror the better, and when you talk with people about it, you find that you are not alone in your quest for information and betterment.

Comment on A Man With A Plan by tekee

tekee — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 00:12:51 +0000

The crazy thing is, these behaviors ebb and flow for me. Comparing what I’ve said in this post to the things I had rocking my mind and heart just back in February, (http://tekee.posterous.com/full-circle-moments) it’s even more clear to me that we never stop learning.
It doesn’t necessarily just go for my relationship with my wife and children, it goes for every interaction that I have with every person, everyday; a colleague, a buddy, my in-laws, my neighbors, or just a person across the counter. As soon as I sent this post in to JTABM, the three categorical words I identified seem to have really caught my attention and affected many of my human interactions.
That being said, I challenge anyone else; what are three life skills that you would like to improve upon? Do yourselves a favor. Even if you don’t want to share them here, write them down and contemplate them. You will be doing yourselves a total solid!

Comment on A Man With A Plan by Matt Bernier

Matt Bernier — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 19:06:00 +0000

Ted –

This is a great article! The thing that I like is that you picked a small subset of things to think about and to work on, and all of them that go towards your general happiness.

To be a better man, it helps to be generally happy, because you have the opportunity to share that happiness. When we humans are angry, we tend to act through that and share it with others, propagating the anger. It is definitely much harder to share happiness.

Every married man, who is worth his salt, realizes that he needs to listen more. Many of us have a tendency to take the conversation with our spouses for granted and assume what they are going to say. This causes frustration and pushed people apart rather than keeping them together. I definitely need to do this, it usually takes an effort for me to slow down, pay attention and think about what was said. (This goes to patience as well) Then respond. Its really hard!

Ted – Thank you so much for writing this article. It made me think about myself, and I hope that it causes other men out there to think as well.

Comment on Living The Best You Within Transition by markwmann

markwmann — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 13:40:10 +0000

Thanks so much for reposting this guys! Hope this helps to encourage some of your readers to get out and stay healthy in the face of adversity.

Comment on Challenge: What’s Important To You? by HappySauce

HappySauce — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 00:24:30 +0000

I want to be happy, and make other people happy. (no bonus point for me I know.

Comment on Matt’s Response: Avoiding Insanity & Expecting a Different Result by Erin

Erin — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 16:13:33 +0000

P.S. I was really hoping that was going to be a picture of you and your lemonade stand as a kid. I had one in Houston; I sold lemonade to the guys building the house next door.

Comment on Matt’s Response: Avoiding Insanity & Expecting a Different Result by Erin

Erin — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 16:12:13 +0000

It seems like you both have really used the skills learned from those earlier jobs to make your current effort more successful. So at least those jobs weren’t wasted! I don’t get the chance to say this to you, only to Tony, but I am very impressed with how hard you are working. Your motivation and dedication can only lead to success

Comment on That’s Totally Gay by Sonya

Sonya — Fri, 14 May 2010 03:31:19 +0000

Another word to keep in mind is using “retarded.” I work with kiddos with disabilities. The term “retarded” used to be a clinical term that referred to a person’s level of functionality. (Technically it is still a medical term, but it is not used very often.) There are so many jokes about “retarded” people and gestures used to refer to people with disabilities. If people actually met and got to know these children and these adults, they would not be as apt to joke about being “retarded.”