Matt’s Response: Planning Your Future

I have to agree with Tony’s statements about how “Dreamlining” is a dumb phrase.  It is so stereotypically Disney to “wish upon a star” and hope that everything will work out.  This is great if you are a tiny animated mouse (whether Mickey or Fievel), but you are a human and reality is a bitch.  If you don’t get off your ass and actually do something then you are going to have nothing but your dreams left after all your money, friends and family are gone.

To this end, I have created my 2010 goals earlier this year on my personal blog. These are goals that I worked through based on what happened last year and what I want to happen this year.

One thing that you have to remember about your goals list is that it can be a living, breathing entity.  You set goals so that you know where you want to go and then you do everything you can to get there.  But, even looking at my goals right now, some of the things on there have already changed. This is OK. The point is to state the idea about which direction you are pointed both to yourself and to other people.  Shit happens, roads fork, opportunity falls in your lap, and shit happens again.  You have to be willing to identify and react to what happens while keeping the general theme of your goals in mind.

Tony gave a list of the general concepts that he wants to achieve and then gives the list of specific action items he is going to take to achieve his overall goals.  I think that this is a great approach and it totally fits with my theory about how you have to be willing to adjust your goals but stay pointed in the same direction.  He uses his overall goals to help him decide his specific goals and then does what he can to make them happen.

What are your overall goals? What will truly give you no choice but to be happy?  What can you do now that will change your world and point it in the direction of happiness for you?


Planning your Future

In our first round of posts Matt and I talked about What’s Important to You.  In that discussion we briefly mentioned our Values or our Guiding Principles. Having decided what’s Important to Me I began taking steps to set my priorities straight and put myself on a path that would allow me to pursue my […]


Challenge: Planning your Future

Now it’s time to get into action! What do you want to Accomplish? Think of the times you’ve felt most comfortable, most you and most DRIVEN. Pull out your list of things that are Important to You and take it one step further into Accomplishments you’ll be driven and excited to achieve as you work […]


Tony’s Engagement Ring

When my fiancee and I got engaged in August of 2010.  I presented her with a ring that I was happy to see her wear.  It was a symbol of my love, friendship and commitment to her. A couple days later we began talking about getting an engagement ring for me.  My fiancee’s point was […]


Why I wear my wedding ring

I have met tons of guys who are married but don’t wear their wedding rings.  Many of them have stories about why, including reasons due to jobs or that they are uncomfortable. If I had a job where I could potentially lose my finger because of the ring, I would probably not wear it to […]


Tony’s Response: That’s Totally Gay

I can’t imagine what life would be like if the people around me continually insulted something that was a part of my life.  One of the things I completely love is Soccer.  I just try to imagine what my day would be like if everyone I talked to said “That’s so Soccer!” each time they […]


That’s Totally Gay

There is a behavior that I am seeing in more and more people and it is becoming quite pervasive in every day conversation.  I would say that it is “sweeping the nation” but that would give this behavior a positive spin that I do not intend to give it. As well, I think it is […]


Tony’s Response: What’s important to you?

In order to understand where this all came from you have to read the About Tony page This conversation came along near the beginning of my Journey and was one of the few useful conversations I had with another Man about it.  I’m including a partial list of What’s Important to me so that you […]


What’s Important To You?

Tony Kimberly: Can I ask you a weird question? Matt Bernier: sure Tony Kimberly: What’s important to you? Matt Bernier: What do you mean by that? Tony Kimberly: Uhh, in the long run, in life. What’s important to you. Tony Kimberly: I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching and deciding what I want out […]


Challenge: What’s Important To You?

This challenge is as simple as its title and as difficult as realizing where you really want your journey to end up. Answer the following: What is important to you? OR What do you want out of your life? Bonus if you can use more than just a couple catch-phrase words to describe what you […]

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